You must manage you.
If you claim that your family is the most important thing in your life, but they get 30 minutes of your 1,440 minutes in your day, my friend you have lied to no one but you.
If your career is most important, but you spend more time on coffee break than you spend on continued education, or just accomplishing the tasks you are assigned, you are likely to find yourself with some really long coffee breaks in the near future. Even if you do manage to keep the job, and keep them “fooled” you might never see that raise you hoped for. You might not have the opportunity to take advantage of bonuses or awards that sit just on the other side of diligence.
You might be in that place where your career has little to nothing to offer in the way of growth or upward mobility. It is time to get a new career, to attend a new training or advance your education. Every time that thought crosses your mind you say, “I just don’t have the time. I cannot afford to go back to school.” Really? Have you done the math? If you missed American Idol for two seasons you could have an associate degree or vocational certification. If you could save (not spend) $15 each day, you could pay for it next year with no loan. Does it seem so out of reach now? Where is that real friend of yours? Give them a lock box with your name on it. (Don’t give them the key). Each time you see them put away a few bucks and see where you are this time next year.