Breaking free from bad peg moments.
We have discussed bad peg moments, unintentional and intentional. Now we will discuss how to break free from those bad peg moments and then how to create good peg moments in your life and in the life of people you care about.
As part of a training seminar I helped to coach, I asked everyone in the class to write on a giant roll of butcher paper all the things that had been said to them over their lifetime that were discouraging. I saw things like:
“Girls don’t play soccer.”
“Why can’t you be smart like your brother.”
“You will never amount to anything.”
“You are the dumbest person I know.”
“You are destined only for a spot on America’s Most Wanted.”
“College is not for you, but there will always be food stamps and government housing.”
The list was long. It filled about five feet of butcher paper. When my time came to speak, I took that paper and wrapped myself in it. I stood at the front of the room like a mummy and explained what happened in my life. I described the many times I have been robbed of hope and labeled a failure.
With a great hulkish roar I raised my hands triumphantly and ripped free from the paper. “No more!” I declared, “I have the choice to pursue my dreams. I have the right to dream and I will not let the opinion of others stop me, anchor me or tie me down.”
I know that moment is only symbolic. I know that some of you have a much quieter personality than to stand in front of a class of people and shout. I also know that if you have experienced the pain of stolen dreams but still have that spark burning inside of you, you need to shout. Take this moment to reignite that passion with a warrior’s shout, “I have the choice to pursue my dreams. I have the right to dream and I will not let the opinion of others stop me, anchor me or tie me down.”
That is the first step to realizing those dreams and the best chance you have of ripping that stake out of the ground. Authority to dream is not given, it is taken. Take it. Do not let the judgment of others be the final word.
Without a doubt, if there is a one word, one step, one cure for bad peg moments, that word is perseverance. Let that be your final word. I want you to take a few moments to consider the impact of peg moments from your past as they apply to your life.
You have the power to establish good peg moments as well.